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Mezdulene’s Annual Belly Dance Retreat

A few days ago, one of my Facebook friends, canceled her account along with messenger. She said that Facebook was just too time-consuming and had become too negative and suggested people contact her in different ways.

She isn’t the first and won’t be the last and I’ll miss her posts. She is a friend of my son’s and is someone I know personally as an acquaintance, but not someone I would call or email for any reason.

Why will I miss her? She has…


Don’t Take it or Make it Personal.

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A woman who seemed perfectly normal and intelligent told me, “I’m not on Facebook because it’s owned by the CIA and I don’t want them to know my business.”

My instant response was, “Why would they want to know your business? I mean, she was an elderly woman who’d been married for 60 years, never left the country, raised her kids, and now spends her time reading and doing art.

Her response to my question was a rant about the government. As she talked, I tried to think of any reason she might…


I offer 8 Self-Care Tactics That Are Needed Now More Than Ever

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Intuition and empathy are wonderful tools to use in our everyday lives. They can alert us to what is real because we ‘feel’ the truth. People can lie all they want, but we know when they are lying. We may or may not be able to intuit what the real truth is, but we know a lie when we hear it so we know not to trust what is being said.

Empathy is a survival tool in abusive situations. We can feel when we are in danger, so…


Before you defend him, there were no riots, just peaceful protesting which is a 1st Amendment right.

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My dad was a staunch republican and money was his God. He would have loved Trump!

When I was 18, my husband and I wanted to buy our own property and build a house. We lived in Arizona where land with water was scarce so we decided to move to Oregon where water is everywhere.

“Oregon is filled with WARS; you’ll fit right in,” claimed my father before we headed north.

“What’s a WAR?”

“Wild Ass Radical!”

That was over 45 years ago…


I have white privilege, but I also know how it feels to be a second class citizen.

An Old White Woman’s Rambling Rant on Racism, Riots and Law Enforcement

I have white privilege but I also know how it feels to be a second class citizen.

My dad was a racist. He used racial slurs for anyone who wasn’t white and often said, “those people need to know their place.” It was clear that their “place” was servitude, not equality.

He believed that women also needed to know “their place” and after four daughters, he finally gave up trying for…


Lessons on Magical Realism Literature and Life

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I recently took a course about the genre of Magical Realism. It was my last class besides my thesis in the pursuit of my MFA degree in writing, and it wasn’t what I expected.

Going into the class, I thought Urban Fantasy was a type of Magical Realism, but I found out that it isn’t. They are two completely different things.

It’s hard to exactly pinpoint what Magical Realism is and isn’t but I’ll do my best here to give you an idea.

First of all, the magic takes place in a mundane…


Why I don’t care if my articles are curated.

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I’ve written 60 articles on Medium and only two have been curated. I stopped writing on here for several months thinking that what I had to say might not be important or interesting enough. Besides, I had plenty of other things to do!

During that time I kept reading articles on Medium and especially studied the articles with tips about being curated.

A few days ago, I went through an internal shift. I’ve been a hobbyist writer my entire life and I made a commitment to myself to change that.

I…


Live your dreams and heal humanity.

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We all have dreams and desires that we want to manifest. As creative artists, we feel guided to write, paint, sing, and dance. We might feel it as stemming from our hearts, it might be little voices in our heads or even some mystical muse.

It’s not the source of your dreams that matter; it’s what you do about them.

Many of us, myself included, put our dreams on the back burner while the front burners of life demand our attention.

That’s okay because at least it’s on a burner, right? Even if you…


How Perfection Weighs You Down and Holds Your Writing Career Back

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I once went to a women’s group where we were asked to bring something from our past to share with the group. It was an ice-breaker and a chance for us to get to know each other better.

For some reason, I brought my Girl Scout sash. Each of us shared our item and when it was my turn I talked about how much I had loved being a Girl Scout. As the group looked at my sash adorned with a multitude of colorful badges, one woman said, “Wow…


The Importance of Creating an Emotionally Safe Space

I remember when the Twin Towers went down on September 11, 2001. I was sound asleep when my daughter called me to tell me what happened.

“Mom! Turn on the television! Something horrible has happened!”

“What channel?”

“Any channel!”

I remember the feeling of shock as I watched the plane fly into the building and then saw the building crumble into dust. It was awful and everyone in America felt the terror of being attacked on our own soil. We had no idea what was coming next. Was it the start of…

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Mezdulene has two great passions, Divine Feminine Belly Dance and writing. She has published essays, articles and books and loves to travel. www.mezdulene.com

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